Zara Neukom, Holistic Psychotherapist in Kelowna BC Canada

My approach to therapy is trauma-informed, emotion-focused, relational, experiential, and depth-oriented.

This means that to experience transformation, we lean into relational safety and journey towards experiences that were previously overwhelming or unbearable. Our systems are highly adaptive and designed to move us away from pain, however, the suppression of painful experience and emotions and our resistance to re-encountering those experiences is often the root of why we show up to therapy. Therefore, the therapeutic process is an invitation to hold this paradox and by moving towards what was once rejected from a place of relationship and safety, we can experience ourselves anew. This sense of newness is the essence of a healing journey, marked by an increased sense of vitality, joy, embodiment and connection to self.

This is not a “quick fix” therapy, instead I invite you to feel deeply and connect deeply. This can take time, practice, and courage. Indeed, the body moves slower than the mind, so if we want to experience lasting change, we honour the wisdom of the body and it’s pace. Embodiment, at its core, is an invitation to slow down, and learn to truly listen to sensation, symptom, and intuition. And through the body, we encounter our power, authenticity, and innate healing potential.

 In session, I treat your symptoms like guides: something to be explored, accompanied, and held with deep respect. For the symptom will lead us exactly where we need to go to meet the fullness of your life experience and to alchemize suffering into flourishing.

PsychoTherapy services

  • My clinical interest and experience include:

    • Discovering meaning and purpose

    • Anxiety & depression

    • Disordered eating and relationship with food

    • Body image issues, body dysmorphia and embodiment practices

    • Relationship issues

    • Childhood trauma, particularly emotional neglect and/or early attachment wounds

    • Trauma processing and integration

    • Working with spiritual or peak experiences and/or non-ordinary states of consciousness

    Fee: $155 per 50 minute session.

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  • I am trained in Emotion-Focused Family Therapy and I connect with parents and caregivers to better understand their experiences and feel resourced and empowered to support their children who are struggling with mental health challenges such as:

    • Anxiety

    • Depression

    • Family-based treatments for adolescents with difficult relationships with food

    • Emotion dysregulation

    • Life transitions

    Note: I do not work directly with youth, I regard caregivers as the most important resource and my role is to create a space for caregivers to explore their relationship with themselves and therefore, with their children. My aim is to help caregivers become more aware of themselves so they can meet their children differently, see more clearly, and show up without shame. This approach is depathologizing, direct, and compassionate and based on research that indicates emotional attunement is protective against mental health disorders across the lifespan.

    Fee: $160 per 50 minute session.

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    I am not accepting any new families at this time

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You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.

Mary Oliver

This is a journey of reclamation

Through trauma and socialization, parts of the psyche become fragmented, exiled, and rejected. Often these parts are creative, free, and expansive. Sometimes they hold our grief, anger, terror or any other experience deemed unacceptable by family and culture. The therapeutic space is the ground where all of these parts of are welcome. For it is through encountering our shadows and exiled aspects do we come to remember our wholeness.

This is the pathway to a soulful life.

My therapeutic philosophy is rooted in the belief that we are innately whole and wired for healing. I hold the assumption that your system contains all the necessary wisdom and together, we explore what it means to be human: to love and lose; to pursue passions; to experience grief and pain; to understand connection and joy; and ultimately come home to ourselves and the world. 

This is your body, your greatest gift, pregnant with wisdom you do not hear, grief you thought was forgotten and joy you have never known.

— Marion Woodman